Better Relationships

If people delay their marriage will they end up with better relationships in the end?

In today's society it is a fact that men and women are getting married at a later age than in past generations. Nowadays, the average age when most women marry is twenty six, while men usually wait until their about 28. There are a variety of factors that contribute to people's decisions to wait. Men and women both want successful relationships that will stand up to the test of time.

Current statistics show that out of all teens who get married, two-thirds of these early marriages will end up in a divorce. The divorce rate in the U.S.A., counting every age group, is a startling 50%. Many young adults who have watched their own parent's marriages deteriorate into divorce, know first hand the devastating effects divorce can have on all of the family members. Based on this it wold seem young people have some very good reasons for delaying marriage, making the process of finding Mr. or Miss Right a carefully, well thought out decision.

One key to better relationships in marriage, that is often overlooked, is allowing yourself the opportunity to grow and mature. Teenagers are still in the process of growing up, and gaining experience in relationships. They quite simply do not possess the maturity, or real time ability to interact with a variety of personalities, and they do not have adequate skills that allow them to communicate with other people in a productive way. Teenage relationships have a tendency to be predicated on appearance (good looks) and other superficial aspects of their partner. Decisions to get married that are based primarily on superficial considerations, are typically shallow and do not usually stand the test of time.

Younger people in today's society are well aware that a good education is necessary for a good career. They realize that completing their education will translate into a excellent income. When you consider that money problems are cited as the number one reason for divorce, it is much wiser to complete your education before you get married.

Besides beginning a marriage with a satisfying career, you also gain experience with a variety of different personalities that enable you to refine your skills. You are then able to take these lessons and apply them on an individual you might want to marry. Your judgments aren't driven by impulsive. Being able to observe your friend's love relationships, the good and the ugly, help contribute to a better relationship of your own. You learn to recognize characteristics of individuals on a much deeper level. While Jim or Sue may be the best looking around, you probably will not miss, or fail to recognize, that Jim has a bad reputation for cheating on all of his girlfriends, or that Sue is a pretentious gold-digger.

During the progression from adolescence to adulthood, you start to develop your true self confidence. You have allowed yourself the freedom to find out what you really want in a marriage partner, as well as define your own personal goals for the future. For example, do you want children? At what age would you like to have them? What personal characteristics do you consider most important to you in your mate? You might have to date twenty or thirty losers before you can give an honest answer to all of these question. By giving yourself time to mature, you will undoubtedly have much better relationships that are more likely to last. That teenage heart throb from your old high school days may seem to be a laughable choice by the time you are in your mid-twenties.

No matter what your age is, anyone who decides to marry hopes that their marriage will last forever. Give yourself a chance to fully mature, get a solid education and establish what you really want for your perfect marriage. Take these steps, do not rush head first into marriage and you'll discover, at the very least, you'll have a much better social life in general and much better relationships in your marriage. You deserve to have all your dreams come true!