Successful Relationships

What is the key to a Successful Relationship? All successful relationships have afew things in common while unsuccessful relationships embrace all forms of misfortune and sorrow. An unsuccessful relationship can be anything from a stale, tired marriage were the levels of communication and love have deteriorated to a point where serious problems like violence or drug abuse threaten the lives of one or both partners. Therefore, a successful relationship is the absence of these serious personal issues. To be in a successful relationship, you need to be a stable individual, happy, and honest with yourself. You must have the power within yourself to be happy before you can even think about making someone else happy.

Successful relationships, none the less, demand a whole lot more than that. There are still quite a few people in this world who are pretty happy on their own but can't seem to communicate well enough to be in a successful relationship. I know this all to well from my own experiences. A couple of years ago, I was dating a woman who I thought was my dream girl. She was gorgeous, intelligent, elegant, and very successful. I also had everything together and was successful, so I couldn't see any reason why things shouldn't work between the both of us. We both had great careers (where we made good money), we were level headed, and we were both rational people.

Even with all that going for us, the relationship still failed, and it failed miserably. We simply didn't have what most successful relationships require: good communication and the ability to compromise. We were both extreme type A personalities, therefore we couldn't see where the other individual was coming from. Both of us were always under the assumption that he or she was correct and the other one was dead wrong. We could sit and discuss something for hours, but still never come close to any type of agreement or compromise.

We ended up parting amicably, and we were able to stay in touch for a few months, but deep down inside I knew that I was in need of some serious help. After we broke up I don't know what she did, but I decided to go for therapy. I finally realized that there were two issues I needed to resolve before I was ever going to be able to have successful relationships. Before I searched any more online dating sites or even went to a singles bar looking for a date, I knew that I would have to resolve my terrible stubborn streak and learn how to really listen.

Trying to change your attitude and learn a new skill is every bit as difficult as it sounds. It took me three months before I made my breakthrough, and there were times I was on the verge of quitting. There were times I felt the psychiatrist was just as stubborn as I was, but I persevered and made a tremendous breakthrough. Ever since that turning point in my life, I have had nothing but successful relationships. Today, When I go out on a date, I am able to say what I mean and hear exactly what she means